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Are You Looking in All the Wrong Places for the Life You Really Want?

By Robert Bencivenga

March 10, 2021


A Wise Old Parable

A policeman sees a man searching for something under a streetlight and asks the man what he has lost. The man says he lost his keys, and they both look under the streetlight together. 

After a few minutes, the policeman asks if he’s sure he lost them here, and the man replies, no, I lost them in the park. The policeman asks why is the man searching here, and the man replies “because this is where the light is.”

The Mistake We All Make

We all have the tendency to search for answers where it's easiest and least painful to look. However, looking outside ourselves—where it's both easier to see and more familiar, instead of inside ourselves where the real answers lie—will never produce the life we really want. 

How many times do you look for the answers to your problems outside yourself, when the answers lie within?

Hermann Hesse wrote, ”There’s no ‘reality’ except the one contained within us. Allow the world within you to assert itself. The miracles you seek are an inside job! Create the life you seek…first in your mind and then in your intentions.”

Where Should You Look for the Life You Really Want?

The life you want is one you create from the inside out. It’s not the one created by being at the mercy and effect of your circumstances. It’s created by your own thinking, and the meanings you choose to assign to things. The things that happen in your life only have the meaning you give to them! 

Unfortunately, it's easier and more convenient to give our power away and blame our circumstances for the life we see. But I'm here to tell you that you are not your circumstances! 

The fulfilling life you yearn for that makes an impact on the world, and sets an amazing example for your children, is found in transforming your thinking, and creating your life from the inside out!

Good Questions To Ask Yourself

What meanings are you assigning to things? What thoughts fill your mind all day long, day after day, in a continuous repetitive loop? Are these thoughts supporting your experience of the life you really want? Remember, you are not your thoughts. You are the thinker of your thoughts, and you can choose which thoughts will fill your world.

Shine the light on the dark places inside of you that you've been previously avoiding. That's where you'll find the answers to creating a life of great health, deep intimate relationships and unimagined prosperity.

Take a close look at where you place your attention throughout your day. Take a look at your health, your relationships, your bank account. Where’s your attention regarding these things in your life? By doing this simple exercise, you'll understand very quickly that your life is where your attention is.

A Life of Your Own Conscious Choosing

Let’s not look just where the light is. Be willing to take a much deeper, and much closer look at how your life gets created, and I guarantee you'll find it's not by accident, but it's one of your own choosing. Slow down enough to “consciously” create the life you want. Don’t let it be created from pre-programmed, knee-jerk reactions on autopilot.

Practice choosing, and choose wisely. Stand at the gate of your mind and be vigilant as to what you allow in it!

To learn more, download my Free Ebook “3 Steps to Feel Great Right Now Regardless of Your Circumstances.” Get started mastering your mind and transforming your thinking.


Robert Bencivenga

About the author

I’ll be your guide on this journey.

I want to make sure you don’t wake up one day feeling your life has passed you by, and you haven’t lived your best life to its fullest!

I’ve studied ancient eastern spiritual philosophies, transformational psychology, and brain science for over 40 years. 

I developed simple practices that you can use anytime and anywhere, to help you create the life you deserve.

I share practical tools and insights, so you can live a life of your own choosing, regardless of your circumstances....

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