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Creating an Amazing Life Beyond Your Circumstances

By Robert Bencivenga

September 24, 2020


Most people live lives of quiet desperation. They never achieve what they’re capable of or create the life they desire, because they believe it’s dependent upon their circumstances.

Let’s show you how to create the incredible life you’ve always wanted, beyond your circumstances!

Why Changing your Circumstances to Change your Life is Ineffective

We spend our whole life trying to get the circumstances we think will make our life turn out the way we want it to…perfect, of course. That’s definitely a backwards approach… #life backwards. 

It’s frustrating, counter-productive, and totally ineffective. 

It’s no wonder people end up desperate, when they try to create an amazing life that way! There’s no power in living totally dependent on your circumstances.

What part of that approach has anything to do with consciously, deliberately creating your own life?! 

Why You’re Looking for Happiness in All the Wrong Places

A satisfying life is not dependent on having different circumstances… more money, a different house, a better car, a new location, a different wife, a better body, or anything that’s more, different, or better. 

Look at all the people you know who have the best of circumstances, and are still miserable!

You have the ability, no matter what your circumstances, to transform the quality of your life, at any given moment! 

What if you were born already wired to be happy, satisfied, and fulfilled, but you’re just looking in all the wrong places...your circumstances!

How To Create Your Life Consciously and Deliberately 

You need to be 100% responsible for your own life, not be at the effect of your circumstances. You need to take a stand for the life you want to experience and take the responsibility for it appearing that way. 

Your Reality is Who You’re Being

You stand for it by who you’re Being. Your life is a reflection of who you’re being, where you put your attention, and the choices you make, and that’s all up to you. 

Trying to change your circumstances, and “hoping” it all turns out, is a recipe for a very haphazard mediocre life! Identifying your circumstances as your “reality” keeps you stuck in your current circumstances. 

Your reality is consciously, deliberately, purposefully, intentionally created by you, and it can be anything you decide it to be.

Changing the Future Possibility for Your Life

Focus on who you’re being, and the future possibility you create for your life. Let your inner state of being reflect that, and it will show up in your external world. Extraordinary lives get created from the inside out. 

Just knowing who you want to be, won’t get you there. We get stuck in the knowing, rather than focusing on who we’re being. We get complacent because we figure we already know it, but knowing doesn’t create the experience of life we’re interested in creating.

An Example: Let’s Get Healthy!

For example…you’ve created the possibility of being fit, in great health, and maintaining a certain weight, and know to experience that, you must exercise and not eat crappy foods, and yet you don’t! Why? Because you’re not being that. You only know it! 

If you’re not a smoker, do you get up in the morning and light up a cigarette?! NO, because who you’re being is not a smoker. If you are married, there are certain ways of being married. You don’t even have to think about how to be married. It’s quite evident when you’re not being married!

Jim Rohn said, “If you want to have more, you need to be more.”

Werner Erhard of EST fame said,”The World occurs inside of our way of Being. The world presents itself as an opening for actions that are consistent with Being that wayit gives … All my actions, feelings, and thoughts flow from it!” 

The Missing Piece: Integrity

Landmark Education says Integrity doesn’t mean keeping your word, it means “honoring” your word. It means doing what you say you’re going to do when you say you’re going to do it, and if you can’t keep your word, you immediately let the other person know. 

It also means being who you need to be to create the future possibility and life you’ve committed to, and if you’re not, then you need to restore your integrity. 

Living Beyond Your Circumstances 

What’s a future possibility you can create for your life that will have you jumping out of bed in the morning, that will reach back into your present, regardless of your circumstances, and give you power and freedom?

Be 100% responsible for the quality of your experience of living. Live from the vision you have for your life, and the possibility you’ve created, not it’s circumstances! Be 100% committed. 

How to Practice Choosing To Have The Life You Want

Most people get stimulated by some occurrence in their life and react on autopilot. It’s just a knee jerk reaction. 

If you start to practice “pausing” right after being stimulated, rather than reacting, you will create an opportunity for deliberate conscious choice. This gives you the ability to experience a life of your own choosing, rather than creating more of the same life you already have. 

Within that space of pausing is where change occurs. Practice choosing to live beyond your circumstances, in line with the life you consciously, deliberately want to experience! A life created based on your future possibility. 

Practice choosing…Choose practicing.

To learn more, download my Free Ebook “3 Steps to Feel Great Right Now Regardless of Your Circumstances.” Get started mastering your mind and transforming your thinking.


Robert Bencivenga

About the author

I’ll be your guide on this journey.

I want to make sure you don’t wake up one day feeling your life has passed you by, and you haven’t lived your best life to its fullest!

I’ve studied ancient eastern spiritual philosophies, transformational psychology, and brain science for over 40 years. 

I developed simple practices that you can use anytime and anywhere, to help you create the life you deserve.

I share practical tools and insights, so you can live a life of your own choosing, regardless of your circumstances....

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